Note: This is a guest post by Nakul Grover. The author’s views are entirely his own and may not reflect the views of Deepanshu Gahlaut’s Blog.
We all hear success stories all around us; the poor, uneducated farmers boy who worked hard and topped the boards, the family who lost everything yet strived to stand back up on their own feet and run a successful business, the girl stuck in a mindless job filled with anxiety and depression who finally got out and made it own her own doing her parents proud.
We hear these stories and imagine ourselves being in these scenarios. What would we have done? How would we have handled the success?
For some of us, these dreams remain just that “Dreams.” We seem to be stuck in a rut. We want these success stories but fate doesn’t seem to be on our side. We are content with blaming our destiny and cribbing about it.
This is where the problem lies. There is no shortcut or guide book to success. But here are the main reasons that can stop you from becoming successful in life.
1. Not Willing To Begin
The easiest thing you can do out of life is to dream big and grumble when your dreams aren’t taking shape. The most important thing about successful people is that they not only dream big, but they achieve it.
If you are looking for success but success seems to be evading you, ask yourself are you willing to make that effort to reach your goals?
“A goal properly set is halfway reached.” – Zig Ziglar
Set up specific short-term or long-term goals, and etch out a blueprint on how you plan on achieving these goals.
2. Avoiding What You’ve Started
You get that drive and you take on a seemingly impossible task. Midway, you kind of lose touch and drop the entire idea. You keep repeating this process till you have a bunch of uncompleted tasks and nothing to account for your work.
In other words, you find that starting is easy, finishing is hard.
This is one of the biggest flaws of unsuccessful people. The might find the motivation in them to begin a task but somewhere down the line they lose that drive and abandon the task.
Do not plan for ventures before finishing what’s at hand. – Euripides
If you are looking for success, begin with simple things. Take on small tasks and see them through. This will help you gain a sense of confidence in yourself and your abilities.
In the modern world of social media and technology, it is the easiest thing to convince yourself that you need a little break from work.
You open your social media apps and decide to browse for five minutes. Before you know it, you have just wasted an hour scrolling through these apps with no work completed.
While it is not completely wrong to take a break during work, in fact, it is recommended to take short breaks to reboot your system, you must be careful on what you do during these breaks.
“You can always find a distraction if you’re looking for one” – Tom Kite
The easiest thing is to get lost in social media. What you can do instead, is walk around outside. Or talk to some people around you. Maybe grab a snack, and get back to work. Take out a dedicated break time and follow those timings instead of getting distracted with every ping of your phone.
4. Uncomfortable With The Change
One of the biggest signs of growth, maturity, and success is to accept and embrace change. Whether it is a change of plans, or a change of workplace, or a change in your way of working.
“Clinging to the past is the problem. Embracing change is the answer.” – Gloria Steinem
You will find yourself to be stuck in a rut if you do not learn how to embrace changes. Successful people are seen to go with the flow and adapt to these situations, making the best out of them. Instead of complaining about the change, try and work your way around it and make the situation better.
5. Getting Influenced By Someone Else
No one said you aren’t allowed to take the occasional help and advice from family and friends. But once you allow others decisions to change your own track, this is where the problem lies.
Everyone will be putting their own ideas and goals into your head and you will be stuck with a jumble of ideas and no direction on how to achieve the ultimate goal.
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde
Listen to everyone, take help, but keep your own thoughts and views strong. Do not let others influence your decision. Decide on a certain path and follow it through. This is an important sign of successful people.
6. Lack of Realistic Expectations
While it is not wrong to dream big, you must also realize that there are steps you must follow through to reach that goal. You cannot expect to go from 0 to 100 with just 10 steps. You must follow through and be prepared to take those 90 further steps to reach that ultimate goal you have created for yourself.
“Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn’t go away.” – Philip K. Dick
Keep your expectations realistic. Understand what must be done and how much time and effort it takes to get it done. Once you have this figured out, all you have to do is make the effort and follow through.
7. Lack of Perseverance
It is the easiest thing in the world for a person to say “yes, I tried, but I couldn’t make it”. Giving up is the easiest thing. Being persistent about your goals is a little harder.
When you find yourself giving up, remind yourself why you started in the first place. Even in you fall, keep getting up, change your methods and try again. This perseverance is what will get you through your journey.
“Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.” – Pele
Success is a sweet taste, but the journey to success is bitter and bumpy. Keep in mind why you have been unsuccessful all this while and use it as a drive to move forward, achieve your goals and become a complete you!
Nakul Grover is the author of Superhuman In You and has been writing on self-improvement for over five years now on his website Positive Life Project. He loves to spend his leisure hours in reading books and learning new skills. You can follow him on Twitter.